Why I Said Yes...
I am a romatic at heart, but also lean to the cynical side of things as well, which can make life complicated. With Gabe, it has never felt complicated, just right and true.
We had both had bad relationships in the past and there was an unspoken understanding that we would not have pursued our relationship if we felt it was going to be a waste of time and we would not make it for the long haul. About ten months to a year into our relationship, I knew in my heart that Gabe was the man for me. He helped me get over past hurts. He was there with me through scary and wonderful times. I finally found someone I could be myself with, the good parts of me and the bad parts too. I never felt judged. He allowed me to fully understand how to feel that way about someone else too.
I knew Gabe was a keeper when he met my family. He made the best impression on my mom, simply by taking his shoes off before coming into the house, something my brothers and I gave up doing in our adolescence. My Nana and Pop Pop loved him right away because he treated me well, and in their book, that is as good as gold. He helped me see the good in my family that I was struggling to remember at the time - when it comes to family, we seem to go through growing pains even as adults. Over time, I could see that we shared the same family values. Well before we started talking about marriage, I knew that he was the man I wanted to have by my side for the rest of my life.
When my Pop Pop passed away, Gabe was my rock. It was just as hard for him to go through this because it reminded him of when both of his grandfathers had passed away. But he was steadfast in his support, spoken and silent. I knew after all of it, that I would marry him no matter what, and I was ready to just say YES even though he had not asked me yet.
There was no grand moment of clarity when it hit me that I knew I was going to marry Gabe. It was just a feeling that grew inside my heart. Like it was there one day when I woke up and was never going to leave my consciousness because of its absolute truth. Every day that passes, I love him more. He is the man of my dreams, and the funny thing is, he is even better than what I had ever imagined for myself. I am marrying him because of the love that he brings to my life and the love I hope to give to his, every day for the rest of our lives.
We had both had bad relationships in the past and there was an unspoken understanding that we would not have pursued our relationship if we felt it was going to be a waste of time and we would not make it for the long haul. About ten months to a year into our relationship, I knew in my heart that Gabe was the man for me. He helped me get over past hurts. He was there with me through scary and wonderful times. I finally found someone I could be myself with, the good parts of me and the bad parts too. I never felt judged. He allowed me to fully understand how to feel that way about someone else too.
I knew Gabe was a keeper when he met my family. He made the best impression on my mom, simply by taking his shoes off before coming into the house, something my brothers and I gave up doing in our adolescence. My Nana and Pop Pop loved him right away because he treated me well, and in their book, that is as good as gold. He helped me see the good in my family that I was struggling to remember at the time - when it comes to family, we seem to go through growing pains even as adults. Over time, I could see that we shared the same family values. Well before we started talking about marriage, I knew that he was the man I wanted to have by my side for the rest of my life.
When my Pop Pop passed away, Gabe was my rock. It was just as hard for him to go through this because it reminded him of when both of his grandfathers had passed away. But he was steadfast in his support, spoken and silent. I knew after all of it, that I would marry him no matter what, and I was ready to just say YES even though he had not asked me yet.
There was no grand moment of clarity when it hit me that I knew I was going to marry Gabe. It was just a feeling that grew inside my heart. Like it was there one day when I woke up and was never going to leave my consciousness because of its absolute truth. Every day that passes, I love him more. He is the man of my dreams, and the funny thing is, he is even better than what I had ever imagined for myself. I am marrying him because of the love that he brings to my life and the love I hope to give to his, every day for the rest of our lives.
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