Good News, & Bad News...
The good news is I finally made time to go down to MW Tux and pick out the attire for my groomsmen and I. We are still far enough out that I don't expect anyone to have to go get sized or anything, but the wedding party is all set up in their computer system which will make things easy later on. Personally, I love the suits, and I think everyone else will be very happy with them as well. We will all be dressed in matching suits with vests and ties, the suitcoats are a lightweight material that should be good for a warm August day. The only difference between us will be that I will have a silver tie and my groomsmen will have wine colored ties matching the bridesmaid dresses. There are pictures in our photo album of the suits, here are some links. The grooms attire is here, and the groomsmen's attire is here.
Now for the bad news, it seems that my brother Jeff will not be able to be my best man. He cannot say at this time that he will be able to attend the wedding, and therefore cannot commit to the responsibilities of the best man. So he thanked me for asking him, and asked that I choose someone else to fill the role. I hope he is able to attend the wedding, but I understand his situation.
It was difficult for me to pick between my two brothers from the beginning. Robert is 9 years older than me so we never really had any interests in common growing up until I began entering adulthood. Jeff is 5 years older than me, just old enough that everything Jeff was interested in when we were younger I wanted to be interest in as well. Jeff was my idol, I wanted to be just like him, I'm sure this got on his nerves. But it also set us up for the friendship that we have today. In many ways Jeff is still my idol, but he is not alone anymore, Robert has been added to the list as well. I look at both of them and I see loving family men who I want to be just like. Men who would do anything for their kids, men who put their family before themselves. In the end, I made my choice based on location, Jeff being closer would be able to make it to more events that are scheduled around me without feeling the pressure to hop on a plane every month for a engagement party or something.
So now I am in a position to add another groomsman to my wedding party, and I am oddly reminded of the initial choice I had to make for who would be my best man. Only now instead of picking between my brothers, I am picking between my friends. There is no one friend who stands out in my mind above the others, but I know soon I will need to think of a reason why one will get to stand beside me on this day. I think I have made my choice, I just hope that I have better luck this time.
Now for the bad news, it seems that my brother Jeff will not be able to be my best man. He cannot say at this time that he will be able to attend the wedding, and therefore cannot commit to the responsibilities of the best man. So he thanked me for asking him, and asked that I choose someone else to fill the role. I hope he is able to attend the wedding, but I understand his situation.
It was difficult for me to pick between my two brothers from the beginning. Robert is 9 years older than me so we never really had any interests in common growing up until I began entering adulthood. Jeff is 5 years older than me, just old enough that everything Jeff was interested in when we were younger I wanted to be interest in as well. Jeff was my idol, I wanted to be just like him, I'm sure this got on his nerves. But it also set us up for the friendship that we have today. In many ways Jeff is still my idol, but he is not alone anymore, Robert has been added to the list as well. I look at both of them and I see loving family men who I want to be just like. Men who would do anything for their kids, men who put their family before themselves. In the end, I made my choice based on location, Jeff being closer would be able to make it to more events that are scheduled around me without feeling the pressure to hop on a plane every month for a engagement party or something.
So now I am in a position to add another groomsman to my wedding party, and I am oddly reminded of the initial choice I had to make for who would be my best man. Only now instead of picking between my brothers, I am picking between my friends. There is no one friend who stands out in my mind above the others, but I know soon I will need to think of a reason why one will get to stand beside me on this day. I think I have made my choice, I just hope that I have better luck this time.
posted by Gabe | 3:02 PM
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